I had a thought--do you think maybe she doesn't consider the times she's doing telehealth with you to be really "being away"? Like they don't count in her mind as vacation days because you still meet in some way?

Just wondering because Dr. T seems to have trouble understanding why I'm bothered by times he's either switched to virtual at the last minute or had planned to be virtual for certain days--and one of those was the week before he went on vacation (his wife and son were worried he'd get Covid in the office and ruin the vacation). I've tried to explain it, how it's disruptive to the regular schedule, that it's like I'm adapting back to telehealth, then adapting back to in-person, then telehealth, etc. (It doesn't help that he's told me he has considerably more difficulty stayed focused over telehealth.) I think he gets it a little more now.

I'm just curious as to whether L doesn't understand that either. So in her mind, she's taking less time off than what it feels like to you. If you haven't explained that or haven't discussed it in a while, it could be worth bringing that up.