I'm starting to reconsider staying in my hometown, even for my mother. He didn't just react poorly to me even having a bug service, he went spiteful accusatory and over the top. I signed up for that service with the idea of (in part) dealing with my father's obsession with me and bugs (of any kind). I haven't been able to completely address them in recent months either due to unemployment, hypomania and health concerns. I can't do it alone, the service is cheap and it (should) make everyone happy, right?

Admittedly, I was a bit premature in signing up, since my sure bet of a job fell through.
BUT
Threatening to disown me? He dressed me down for ten straight minutes. Five of those were spent calling me variations of stupid, incompetent, unthinking, lost without him, etc. Then, for the last five, I was cunning, predatory, greedy. I was bleeding my father dry in order to keep the lights on apparently. He ended it with a pontificating high and mighty "How dare you take advantage of me." "I'll disown you for needing help with a service I didn't specifically authorize."

Three hours later, he called me asking if I wanted spaghetti. Seriously. I'm trying to figure out if it's gaslighting, cycle of abuse or both.

It goes without saying, but I have no desire to be party to that dynamic. If I hadn't have "gone out into the world," I would have still been emotionally attached to my father's belief that everyone in the world is either idiotic or out to get you and sometimes I was too, depending on which one of his ever moving lines I crossed.