No, she's being too defensive, in my opinion.

You make sense, not that you need to justify why but I'm saying that because you're doubting yourself.

Pausing trauma work can be very helpful and so is going slow with it because trauma is "too much, too fast, too soon". Even positive stressors like a wedding takes energy and its absolutely normal to want to pause deep work. There's plenty of other issues you can work on like you said.

Her being pushy like this honestly concerns me. I don't want to shake your trust in her, but I'm uneasy that she seemed to think you just want to avoid working in therapy? When you clearly said otherwise? Even if you were being "avoidant", that's the nature of trauma. Her job is to help you feel safer and that includes not pressuring you into continuing to process trauma. There can be a discussion on why, but the decision should be yours to make.