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Just a little personal experience here. My now ex was not "put down" Sarcastic toward me before we got married but started that crap right after we were married. Ok, I had a lot of ammunition to throw back at him when it came to put downs & we threw it back & forth for maybe 6 months but it made me angry because I was tired of being that way myself because it didn't make me feel good even though it was easy to throw put down sarcasm back at him. I finally said enough & if he didn't stop it I wanted him out of my life (oh yes, issues started early on in that marriage) anyway, he agreed to stop HOWEVER it took almost a YEAR of reminders every time he did it before he was finally able to STOP that completely.
Don't lose patience & work calmly with him on the issue you are having. It takes time cause those kinds of things aren't like they are controlled by a light switch. The good thing is he is willing to work with you on this so you need to have patience & work calmly with him. It will change but if you get angry & impatient, you may drive him away. Your attitude as much as his is what will make the change possible
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Leo's favorite place was in the passenger seat of my truck. We went everywhere together like this.
Leo my soulmate will live in my heart FOREVER Nov 1, 2002 - Dec 16, 2018
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