Congrats on your wedding.

I think it’s great that you were able to tell her what you needed, and kind of disappointing that she isn’t honouring your own sense of what’s right for you. IMHO one of the most healing things that can happen in therapy is learning to recognize what you’re feeling and honour your own needs. That ability to say no and know your own limits is the very thing that abuse takes from you. Part of of trauma work is ensuring that you’re safe, that your boundaries are understood and respected.