I wonder if other things were coming into play here like... marriage includes sexual relations so maybe she wanted to make sure you were going to be ok with that aspect of marriage .....before.... you got married and why she wanted to finish up what ever trauma work you are doing.

I also wonder upon reading this thread whether the new standards may be why she wanted to get through the trauma work.

quick info summary the DSM 5 TR was published in March 2022. trauma work is changing because of it. trauma work is no longer going to be about locating and working on more and more trauma.

Trauma work is refocusing on how to deal with today's triggers not on trauma memories or delving deeply into trauma memories.

basically treatment providers have a deadline once a new diagnostic manual and treatment guidelines are released. They have a limited amount of time to finish up with already started work and guide their clients into the new ways.

maybe your treatment provider is worried that waiting to get through the present issue you are working on will end up being that issue being left hanging in limbo because she may not be able to work the same way with you on that issue if she waits.

heres an example.... my treatment provider and I were delving deeper into one of my traumatic events, we put it on hold because I didnt want to work on this issue outside of face to face contact. now we have face to face contact but because she is now on the DSM 5 TR ways, she cannot work with me the same way on this issue. instead of delving into the traumatic event, trauma memories like we were doing before, we now have to stay in the moment with whether or not that traumatic event is affecting my life today and how and doing so ...........with out.......... going into the trauma memories, trauma event. Both of us are finding this hard to do. She has to keep redirecting me to keep my conversation not on the past but on the present. how is that traumatic event of witnessing a traumatic event against another is affecting me today in the violent world of protests and shootings and so on going on. it is so hard to talk in terms of today without delving deep into yesterday sometimes.

my point is maybe shes on a deadline and wants to make sure she finishes old work with you so that your being or getting married doesnt get affected by the past.