Thanks for the input!
I’m marrying my kids’ dad and i met him while in therapy with this T so she literally knows the whole timeline and story - but, since it’s indeed past SA i’m working on, I get your point and it’s a good one i had not thought about.
I have worked hard with T even quitting a few times. I do know T has had not exactly the best time or her life with me disappearing every now and then. It may be like you said and i hope it is. I just wish she had been a little softer/not so defensive in letting me know that she tought it could be a not so good idea for some reason. I hope I get the chance to talk to her upon our return, I really need to, but I’m afraid.