Sorry I'm getting obsessed on this topic now....I wonder then if its not the case that I want my dog to feel as afraid t dare to ask to be loved as I once did? I want her to have the fear I did...that I find anyones innocently looking for nuture terrifying...and my head says "it shouldnt be allowed, you shouldn't feel you can be loved or cared about, its unforgiveable, how dare you, I want to destroy you now! you've made me feel ashamed of what I always wanted and never got, how dare you!!," unyet inside is a child crying out for love and the big monster is keeping her from it....