I feel like a 3rd wheel in my marriage because of my husbands best friend. They're always talking to each other on the phone. I'm not sure what the average amount of calls between two guys would be but I'm guessing sometimes 30 per week isn't average.

No matter what we're doing, where we go, they're taking to each other. It even happens in the middle of dinner, family gatherings, or when we're watching a movie together, even at Dr appointments or grocery shopping.

They talk first thing in the morning, throughout the day and then at night too. If there's good news that's who my husband calls and tells first. The same with bad news, he turns to him. Recently there was an emergency situation and we were both very distraught. I ended up pretty hurt and upset because I needed him, we needed each other(or so I thought) but guess who he turned to?

Yes, I have talked to him about this, to no avail. He will stop talking every call when we're together or doing something but he's always in a hurry to call him back and is distracted and not really present until he does. Or he will go a day or two of limiting the amount of calls and then go right back to the excessive amount.

I've heard many conversations, honestly they remind me of status updates on FB. Things like his friend calling and announcing what he had for dinner and asking my husband what he had. It's like every thought that pops in their heads they have to share it with each other. It's like they use each other as human journals with all the gossiping and talking they do.

Last week we had an argument because I had a rough time sleeping and his friend called super early, again, and I got woke up. The argument was cause I said hey can you please talk to him about calling so early and waking us. His solution was to just remember to silence his phone at night and he was upset that I even asked him to talk to his friend about it.

He tells me his friend gets lonesome and has nobody else to talk to. Yet I've heard his friend talk about his other friends, things they do, places they go, etc so I don't really believe the guy is just lonesome.

I'm not really sure what I'm trying to say or even insinuate here. But it just seems so odd to me. This guy knows every detail of our lives because hubby tells him everything. He not only knows our monthly expenses but our grown kids' expenses, he knows every argument hubby and I have, how often we have sex, even what kind of toilet paper we buy.

And I'm really fed up.