
Aug 19, 2022, 08:43 AM
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Member Since: Oct 2004
Location: Kentucky, USA
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Originally Posted by rechu
Wow, that seems like a really fatalist attitude. It's been quite a while where most people, at least in Western nations, have had many choices than just marry young and start popping out kids. If you felt like that is what you were supposed to and are not happy, that's your issue - you can choose to work on it or leave. But, don't paint all relationships with the same brush.
I know only a few people that married young. Most realized it was a mistake and separated before the age of 30.
An ex actually wanted to marry me when I was in my early 20s. There was no way I wanted to get tied down at such a young age. I later realized that he was one of those people that could not be alone. He married someone else 6 months later.
I didn't marry until my late 30s. We never had kids by choice. 13 years later I am still married and generally happy. There are always challenges, but we work on those. We truly have each others' back. We've been through many challenges, mental health struggles, unemployment, major political upheaval, earthquakes, some of the strictest COVID lockdowns in the world, but here we are.
@ Aviza - I know quite a few people that found happy relationships later in life. Most seemed to meet people by getting out there and participating in activities they enjoyed rather than dating apps and sites.
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Moodyblue didn't say all.....but used the word "usually"....that does not mean all. You look at the picture out there & even what aviza painted a picture of what rechu said was "usually". I know people also who have met someone in their later years & are now happily married. I also know those who are still married only because of the financial benefit from it. I also know many of us very independent women who have been married in bad marriages who would never consider getting married again or some as in ever. Seriously depends on your own personality & what one is willing to deal with & finding someone NEVER GUARANTEES they will be that soulmate one is looking for & wishful thinking won't make them into that. Some find the right person but many don't or the divorce rate wouldn't be what it is & after dealing with that personally, I am better off taking care of myself as I am still paying lawyers to fix the stupidity of the guy I was married to 15 years after I left. Some stupid leaves a lasting mark that even lawyers struggle to remove. Definitely not worth doing again with anyone else in some cases.
It is a realistic picture that many people don't bother looking at because they believe their wishful thinking will make anything good....reality doesn't work that way....but it doesn't stop most from keep trying
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Last edited by eskielover; Aug 19, 2022 at 10:58 AM.
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