I guess what I'm trying to say is that for me it will likely be about being attached and ending. Something bittersweet, like a graduation or moving out of your (loving) parents' house. Like you know she cares and will be there if you need her again, but you reach a point where you just don't need her on a weekly basis. The relationship and connection don't stop just because you don't see each other anymore. That seems like the essence of earned secure attachment. But this is just what I imagine/hope my ending will be like and I do think there are many ways to do it.