I agree with EM, in that I think it's about feeling connected, but also "ready" (not devastated) to end things. It's not about the connection waning so I can leave, but rather, about internalizing it in such a way that I can take it with me, and I feel ready to move on.

I will admit, this is all speculation at this point, and I'm taking it somewhat on faith that eventually I will feel ready to leave my T. I am very connected to my T, but I don't feel ready to move on at this point. But nor do I feel desperate about it, or like I can't leave (which I did feel for a long time). Over time, the connection feels more secure and the thought of ending someday, or even losing him abruptly, is less distressing.