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Originally Posted by Betty_Banana
Thanks again everyone.
I tried talking to him, again, about his friend, and it ended up in a huge argument.
He says they're just lifelong friends, nothing more. Maybe that's true or maybe there's more he's not willing to admit, or face. IDK.
They don't see each other in person very often because his friend doesn't live real close or anything, it's pretty much mostly just talking on the phone.
I have decided to just back off. If even trying to talk about it ends up in an argument, why bother it's not gonna change. I know I will never take top priority.
And what I will do with that realization, I'm just not quite sure yet.
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This should not have ended up as a huge argument to the point where now you feel you have to back off and back down. What he is doing is not fair to YOU. That conversation could have gone a very different way. He could have heard you and he could be making accommodations, but he is not.
I don't know how you're able to stay with someone like this under all the circumstances - I imagine that he still wants you to speak of men sexually to him?
Are you scared to be alone? Are you scared of leaving him? It's Ok if you are. That's very common. But you're putting up with an awful lot with him, and have put up with an awful lot over the years given your prior threads. I personally would not be able to withstand all of it myself.
My husband places me first above all of his friends. I need this and I want this. I would not be able to tolerate a third party being involved in our relationship in terms of every detail.
And the sexual stuff would simply just creep me out. I had an ex boyfriend who turned out to be bisexual who wanted me to role play with me pretending to be male. I didn't tolerate it and I broke up with him.