Correct. If things stay the same, nothing will ever change. Your husband is quite happy to have his cake and eat it, so yes, he has no reason whatsoever to change. The only way to make change happen is by *you* effecting change.

So you are quite happy to accept this and be in a relationship where you know you don't matter that much to your husband? Fair enough. It is your life after all and you decide how you want others to treat you.