For those of you who are moms or caregivers, would you choosee to go to a T if you knew they never had kids?
I'm considering changing T and have seen a new one a handful of times. The new T is much older than me (possibly late 50's) and appears to be a good fit but I just discovered she doesn't have kids. Obviously of course I know you don't need to have had kids to be a good therapist. but I do have very young kids and whilst they are not a huge stressor for me other than the regular stress raising kids brings (which is stressful in of itself I know) and I wonder if it would cause a lot of gaps in our ability to relate to each other. I have friends who don't have kids and it's a very different relationship (not in a negative way) to those who do. I guess what I mean is that my main reason for going to therapy to help heal my attachment wounds and complex trauma from my own childhood so that I can change my unhealthy patterns and break generational cycles and not pass my negative traits onto them but not necessarily about my kids per se but as is the case with kids they also will take up alot of my focus directly and indirectly.
Would you think my T not having kids matters?
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