She does not have a physciatrist..she has a family Dr who obviously knows about her bpd but she doesn't tell anyone anything and if I were to call on her behalf and tell them what's happening she would never forgive me even though it is out of love for her that I'd be doing it. And as for me sadly all I can do is sit back and watch..I have been talking to someone through my eap at work but other than that I don't have many friends ...it's been 2 months since my wife and I did something together..we were supposed to go to Niagara Saturday for rhe night for our anniversary but she winded up ditching me..said she was taking the kids to her mom's and would come back and get me so we could go...she didn't come back until Sunday around 11am..and she left to take the kids at 1230pm Saturday