If I call T and leave a message specifically asking him to call me back, he will call me back. If I call and just leave a message without being specific about calling, he doesn't call. Same with e-mails....I have to say these specific words: "Please respond to content" for him to respond (this is an ongoing joke between us because he is serious about me using those exact words and it drives me absolutely crazy).

I try not to call after hours, because he has a family and I don't want to interfere with his family time. But he tells me he can take care of his own needs, and he will make sure it is a good time for him before he calls me back. So we have had phone calls on weekends - some short, some much longer. He's much more available when he's on the road/out of town for a conference or whatever (not a vacation - there is no contact then at all).

I've been able to get a lot of support on this board when I don't want to "bother" T. Is there something going on that you want to share??