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Old Aug 23, 2022, 10:28 AM
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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight View Post
Hm, this is an interesting question. I feel like my therapist relates to me better about parenting issues because he has a child of his own. Because quite a bit of my stress involves my daughter (in part because she's special needs), it helps to be able to feel the parenting connection with my T (and his son may also be special needs, but it's a complicated story). And ex-MC and ex-T had kids, too.

However, if your kids are NOT a big stressor for you, I feel like it could work. (Of course, it's hard to know when they could potentially become a stressor!) But I completely get preferring someone with kids.

Hm, it's certainly not the same thing as having them, but out of curiosity, does that therapist also work with kids and/or teens? As that could affect her perspective, like she might have a greater understanding of kids, even if not from the perspective of a parent.
I am both. Meaning work with kids for over 30 years and am a parent/stepparent/grandparent/stepgrandparent. Not the same thing. Just not. Not even close. The issue I might ever have to address in therapy has no correlation to any professional experience. Different things whatsoever. Both are valuable but not in the same way
Thanks for this!
LonesomeTonight