((((***hugggs***)))) Aviza, I get it. It's a perfectly natural thing, and most of us definitely yearn for a wonderful, romantic love in our lives.

Sadly, it is granted to so few.

But I do not want to discourage you or dishearten you. I met my husband at 38, after much heartache and pain inflicted by profoundly unworthy loves. I didn't want anything to do with another man, ever again. But that's when it "happens", they say.

My marriage is good, but not a storybook. There are days he drives me right up a wall. But, on balance, we really like one another. And although people I had considered good friends have abandoned me, he never has. We've grown closer through crisis after crisis. I would be a fool to count this as nothing.

I hope you find the love you want, and the love you need. Be smart about it. Don't be taken-in. And don't settle!