In the beginning we wanted sex, drugs and threesomes, crazy sex parties....well now I don't want that. I want to get up early. Take a run. Go to the gym, go for a walk or go to a festival...sober stuff. I don't want to wake up hung over at 1pm. He stays up for days on drugs as I go to bed alone. We want two different things out of lives. He'd have sex parties, whips,chains....I'm over that, I'm 42...coke just isn't as cool. So I have no good advice as to these things happen. We are still together but we tell each other to **** off at least once a day.