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Originally Posted by moodyblue83
I view death as not the end but a transition back into the universe.
Death is a part of life. Death is the great equalizer. Your grief will
subside over time. Our own personal life is meaningful and meaningless
at the same time. We grieve the loss of those we loved or knew to some extent.
I think the best way to get over grief is to celebrate the persons life !
Think of the good times. The happy moments. Remember , grieving is
a selfish emotion. Your sad over a loss but think about the person who
actually died !
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Thanks for your thoughts - with ALL those I've known who have died, it's not the loss I am grieving. It's the fact that I've known too many people whose lives were cut short, and that's what makes me the saddest. It's not about me - it's about them and all those who loved that person.
And there's nothing wrong with grieving the loss of that person from your own life. Have you ever lost a parent or someone very close to you? It's really really difficult. There's a hole now and a void that my father used to fill in my life - in my whole family's life. And that's hard to deal with now that he's gone. And it's not just about me - I am very concerned about my mother. She has never been alone in her entire life! She is now dealing with retirement, all alone. She was married to my father for over 57 years! Since she was 23 years old.
So, you're insinuating it's selfish to grieve the loss? I firmly and respectfully disagree with your POV That's very insensitive and judgmental, in my opinion. Lose someone close to you in your life, and see how YOU feel.
Grieving the loss of someone who filled a role for you in your life only shows your love & appreciation for that person, it is not selfish and it is not to be judged.
And what about someone who
His life was more tragic and sad than anything. And of course, his death by
was most tragic. There's NOTHING to be celebrated under those circumstances.