I had a T that use to tell me how much she enjoyed seeing me and how much she enjoyed our time together, she actually on our first session sent me a poem she had written to show me (she says) that I was not alone in how I felt. I don't think I Had even got as far as telling her how I felt when she told me she had a poem she would show me. Toward the 6month mark she said she felt "redundent" with me and felt I knew as much as her and she pulled the cards out. I begun to feel as if she wasn't secure enought for me anymore, I needed something but didn't know at that time what. I needed her to set the boundaries, to be firm to help me feel secure, but I felt we were both floating together and I finally tested her but saying I think perhaps I'm ready to quit. She said that was entiely up to me and I think I wanted her to hold onto me, but she didnt and I left. ITs only now with this T that I see what I was needing and playing cards and being like "friends" though nice, wasn't what I needed to feel secure enought to go deeper. I look back on that T as my first steps into believe perhaps someone could care for me, but she wasn't "strong" enought for me to feel safe to do the real trauma work.