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Originally Posted by moodyblue83
Maybe I should clarify something. I didn’t mean to sound insensitive to the feelings and emotions we experience after the death of a loved one. I tend to look at life from a universal standpoint. Just really trying to make sense of it all. I think there’s a reason different cultures grieve in different ways. Speaking for myself I still grieve the loss of my mom 50 years later. In a way , I’ve never been able to move forward.
By not getting past it I deprived myself of a happier more productive life. I was miserable to others. I think I should just leave it there for now. It gets too complicated because we’re dealing with something in the psychological realm.
I wish all , peace of mind , & the calming of the storm within.
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Thank you for this post - I was responding to your statement that grieving is a selfish emotion. And I responded the way I did because it triggered me.
I revert back to my prior statements that grieving is very individual and personal for every single person. I don't think we can judge or make comments on another's grieving process - like you said, you've been grieving a loss for 50 years and it has impacted your life negatively. But that can happen. A significant loss can be most profound and can change an entire person's life for the worse. Look at my husbands parents - they lost their entire fortune because they lost their beloved son in 9/11.