It seems like you want more from this friendship than she’s willing to provide. I also don’t see any point in constantly analyzing and diagnosing her. I am sorry but you could just keep it more casual and less regular if you want her in your life or you can just drop her. I don’t think you can make her to be someone she is not.

You advised her to join meetups or hobby groups or gym. That’s a great advice. Have you tried any of that? Not to meet men but perhaps meet some other like minded people for some socialization. Your preoccupation with this lady seems excessive. Checking if she is online and counting days and hours between replies just seems like unhealthy way to spend your time.

You even started exact same thread on a different subforum again repeating what happened and quoting her messages to you. I know it’s upsetting when relationships snd friendships don’t go our way. But it happens