As I go further into therapy I find a lot of my old ways are fading. I use to much prefer masterbation to sex with my husband. Then gradually I couldnt get the fantasy to work, and now I find I much prefer including my husband...I did mention this too T in a round-about-way and she said that is a big step forward.. I use to think perhaps I was just sexually divant, but now know its not just as B/W as that..sometimes I get frustrated when I can't get my old fantasys to work, not just in the sex dept, but in other ways too. Its not until you attempt to do what you've always done and find suddenly its gone, that you begin to see the why and what for off things...I guess I could say, my sex drive is becoming mature and needs or has space for another humanbeing in it now, where as a child would only seek out self???