@arich62

So sorry you're going through this...

I was in an abusive relationship (emotional / psychological) and a psychologist got me out to a woman's shelter, then I moved to the YWCA. I didn't have children or pets... It was tremendously hard to leave, but I did it.

It's difficult to know what to say, not knowing your particulars, but I'd say you need to end the relationship and get out of there safely asap.