I know it’s hard. You can’t really control what these men do. though.

You can only control what you do. Don’t make out with men you don’t know well. Don’t beg for dates or contact them if they show no interest. Don’t travel to see them. Not saying you can’t meet half way if they live far but don’t go stay in their towns. Don’t be intimate unless you consistently dated them for quite a bit. Men who only want sex will not stick around. That’s how you know. You seem to want them to stick around as soon as you meet them.

A man shows no interest in you in messages yet you still go on a date. Don’t go on a date if he’s not interested

A man sees dates up only when it’s convened for him. Don’t agree to that.

A man doesn’t contact you. He’s not interested. Stop contacting him.

You don’t know a guy. Just talking to a guy then all of a sudden you are staying in his town and receive him in the apartment for sexual activities. Why? Don’t do these kind of thing. If you ended up in that town but he’s not spending time with you then there shouldn’t be sex. He wants time with you then go out or for a walk with him or a meal or go do your own thing

You are saying they view you as a sex thing. But I wonder if yourself see yourself that way if you willingly make out and sleep with men without a relationship and proper dating. Even that ex who never invited you over or introduce you to people or travelled with you yet he’d come to your town and very likely was getting sex. That’s not a relationship. Just stop all that. People treat us the way we teach them to treat us

I am not a prude and am not judging as I did the most ridiculous stupid things with me or for men so no judgement from me. But based on my experience you have to go about it differently. Don’t send subconscious messages that you are willing to put up with bad treatment or lack of interest and will be making out or even more without any effort on their part.

And maybe look for different ways to meet men. If these are dating sites then maybe make sure these are higher quality ones. You can meet good men online but be selective who you go on a date with. Pay attention to what’s happening