Hi Soliaree,

You may still feel the same way, that you do not want to return for any more sessions. If you do want to return to your T, I hope you will give yourself that opportunity. I think counselors are accustomed to people cancelling their appointments when they are really upset, wanting to dissolve the relationship, even long-time clients. It happens. It also happens that they call back a few days later, or a week later, and reconsider and want to reschedule. I would bet good money on the fact that this would not be his first experience of this in the course of his work. I think any good counselor should be open to seeing a client again when there has been a difficult session like this, and a cancellation, if the client wants to meet once again.

Again, you'd need to decide if that is what you want. It sounds like his comments could have been phrased better, or he could have approached things a different way. Counselors are human, and they make errors now and then, it's true. But from what you are saying, over the course of the time you've worked together, there have been many positive things. I think it's a good policy to meet with a counselor at least one more time when there has been such a hard session, and talk face-to-face, even if you are thinking of quitting....rather than quit without meeting again. I think it's healthy to discuss the situation in person, and express your feelings about that difficult session. It sounds to me as if you're pretty upset with him. There may be a chance that you could work it out together still. Maybe he could explain his thoughts behind what he said. Sometimes when things seem at their worst, bringing those things up in session are the times of the greatest growth - hard as it is. You still may not want to return, but you may want to give it some thought. It sounds like this was a very positive relationship over time. It may still be, and could grow richer when you work through this rough patch. I've had that experience in counseling, and I've heard that from others too.

Whatever happens, I send you good wishes. Please take good care of yourself at this difficult time.

Take care,
ErinBear