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Originally Posted by Biba_yu
I don't agree. Men who are single after 40 or even 35 usually want to be single. They don't want anything meaningful. At least from my experience. Even men who are divorced usually don't want to engage in marriage again. Maybe I just got a bad batch but men I dated recently were all older than 40, yet they still acted like horrible asses to me. Many of them lied they want a connection then bailed when they realized sex is not going to happen so soon as they would want. But they lied so much. It's like I attract the worst people.
They would be nice at first then treated me like trash, and that was the worst. I seem to be unable to recognize who is nice a who is just a horrible person. I attract the worst, liars, cheaters, serial daters, maybe that's why they always treat me like trash because I chose poorly? I don't see myself as valuable person.
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It’s simply not the case. Not at all. Perhaps it’s a cultural difference. In the US it’s pretty typical for men be interested in a marriage and/or relationship at whatever age. Many (if not most) after they divorced or widowed marry again pretty soon (or enter committed relationships). In fact in my experience men don’t like to be alone and have relationships/marry fairly soon after becoming single. Heck sometimes too soon. What you describe might be the case in your area. Or your circle. Not here
I think attracting wrong men and being attracted to wrong men is an issue. How was your family of origin? How did your father treat your mother? You seem to be attracted to emotionally unavailable men. Was your family emotionally unavailable?