I was bullied when I was young too and dealt with insecurity issues for years as an adult. The thing is, as adults, and no matter how horribly we may have been treated, it’s our responsibility to regain the lost confidence, reclaim our self worth and to learn self love. That’s the only way people will truly respect you in the end - is if you gain and show love for yourself to not take any crap from anyone - including men.

Unfortunately, deep and obvious insecurities are a huge turn off to most people. No one wants to have a cling on, or to have to constantly reassure someone or to constantly communicate that the person is lovable. It’s exhausting for other people and that’s why people generally turn away from an obviously insecure person.

I did not witness your interactions or anything about you with these men. But yes people can pick up on this and will turn away. It’s the sad and harsh truth.

For yourself, it’s important and vital to reclaim your self worth. You have SO MUCH going for you, and I’m sure you’re a very lovely person. Own it and learn to love yourself for all the beautiful things you really are. Once you do that, no one can truly hurt you. You know your own worth and those who are unworthy matter far less.