My husband is in a mood, it's ruined the entire long weekend and I don't know what's wrong.

I mean, I know of one issue that is plaguing him - his sick mother. But he has lain awake for weeks now, he is up late which is atypical, and yesterday he was in such a bad mood that we exchanged some words and had some tension. His back is also hurting him and he hasn't been feeling physically well for the last day. But often times when he doesn't feel physically well, it's an emotional issue which literally makes him physically sick.

Each time we've fought - which has been 3-4 times in the last year plus - he's asked me if I want to be with him. He often projects his feelings, so I am now wondering if HE wants to be with ME, and I wonder if that is also what is plaguing him. I know he wouldn't leave me right now, when we are about to have a memorial service for my father later this month - but I wonder if this is what is wrong, at the heart of it all.

After some tension between us, I asked him yesterday if he still wants to be with me and he said yes, of course. But we haven't been intimate all weekend when we were supposed to, and intimacy has been waning over the last many months.

Granted, we've had a LOT going on that has been difficult - including losing my father in June and both of us getting sick with covid in July. Plus, work stress on both our parts. It was unclear whether I may lose my job at different points this summer. And now, his mother's declining health and increasing dementia. She recently was brought to a rehab facility in California by her other son, and now she is refusing to eat. My husband's brother is asking for him to fly out to California to help.

I wish he would just talk to me but he won't. He continues to be in a mood today. I asked him if he feels any better than yesterday, and he said "a little".

I don't know what to do at this point?