Ok so to clarify this: I was not a stay-at-home father. I was just the consistent parent. I did and do have an 8-5 salary job and because I am so damn good at what I do, I have a level of leniency. So I am able to take our kids to appointments, and work from home at times to be there before them. Help with homework, cooking, cleaning, yard work, parenting, etc. Because her work hours were so volatile, she was it was hard for her too. However, there were other places that were offering a job in the same position, same pay, and day shift and she refused even though it would have made life easier for both of us.