Wow this is a lot like my story except it’s with my wife. I know leaving would be the best for both me and her I’m just worried it will kill her. Yet I suffer everyday and I treat her like **** everyday.I’m so sick of being a coward and not being able to do the right thing. Therapy has taught me that I am not responsible for her actions but I just can’t get past how much I would hurt her. She deserves better and so do I. I hope you are able to leave someday for both your sake. You are both dying a slow death of pain in a dysfunctional relationship. I’m sure he’s not an idiot. He feels it too but he’s not strong enough either. Hope you find the strength. I’m rooting for you.