I definitely have to resist being passive-aggressive. For example, it's natural for me to sulk when I get angry. Now I'm currently having this huge conflict with a colleague and one of my concerns is that I'm coming off as passive aggressive. It's true that I'm furious with him but haven't spoken to him directly, just like the article describes. But in this case, I feel talking to him will only make things worse for me. I wish I knew a way to make clear that while I'm angry, my behavior isn't a form of punishment, it's just the new normal. I just want more boundaries and don't necessarily want to interact socially with my colleague anymore.