Hello, I read about the core belief of feeling like no one cares about you and I really relate. My mom wasn’t abusive but she was deeply depressed and didn’t get help so she spent 90% of her time at home in her room. My brother and I were left to our own devices. Me, I became very anxious and depressed myself and started self harming, mostly to lessen the emotional pain, but part was to get someone, anyone to notice me and take care of me. My brother ran wild on the streets, taking whatever drug he could get his hands on. It’s amazing that he is still alive today. He’s still an alcoholic but quit everything else. Not that alcohol is any better. He was also trying to get my mom’s attention but nothing we did worked.

I’ve always felt so very alone and I still to this day have trouble making and keeping connections with people. I almost had a friend to see outside of work last year but I figured she wouldn’t want to see me so I shouldn’t bother her about it.

Anyway not trying to take over your post, just letting you know I relate. I try to remember now that I am not a waste of space and I am not being abandoned when people ghost me, it’s more of a reflection on them. I’ve gotten much better.

If you do want any more grounding skills I can PM you the list I sent Beth, it’s everything I learned in the trauma IOP I was in for six months.