Hi Dunnit260,

Reading through your post sort of reminds me of myself. I got to ask you has your problem with friendships mostly been with other women?

Personally... I have very little problems with guys but I have found other women my age and younger (I am in my 40s) to be extremely difficult to get along with!

It seems like men have such a much wider view of the world. They form their identities based on their careers, their hobbies, their sports, etc, whereas with women.... everything is just based on trying to emulate Sarah Jessica Parker from Sex in the City.

Forget about forming an identity based on your education, hobbies, personal goals, dreams, etc... it's all about whether you're pretty, have great fashion sense, have the best looking boyfriend or husband, the smartest kids, the biggest house, the coolest friends, etc, etc.

Heaven forbid if you have no desire to act like a Stepford Wife!!

It's like: "OMG! Ewwww.... What's wrong with you??" -- you're treated like a social outcast at that point!!

Anyway... I am not sure how old you are but you might want to seek out friends older than yourself. I find that women who are in their late 50's and older to be quite nice. They have more of an identity too. They are comfortable being themselves rather than acting like some bimbo they see on TV or have read about in a Hollywood gossip magazine.

Women my age and younger... well... I just find them to be quite sad... it's a shame that they have such a narrow and unhealthy way of viewing themselves and others.

Just my $0.02... but I think this narrow view of the world and themselves is probably one of the reasons why women suffer from far more eating disorders and depression than men.

Anyway... I'll stop my rant for now.

Good luck to you,

Peppermint Patty