Well if a spouse leaves dirty socks next to a hamper, it is not grounds for divorce. When he calls you crazy and psychotic, it kind of falls into that category though. Just because he didn’t mean it, doesn’t make it ok. That’s how abuse is often justified “oh he didn’t mean it”

Also having a sick or elderly or dying family members or health problems or work stress isn’t an unusual extravagant circumstance, not unique. It’s part of everyone’s life. Not an excuse for acting like a jerk