Personally I'm not very fond of passive aggressiveness. I like to have an open , honest
discussion about whatever the disagreement or conflict is about. Beating around the bush ,
not wanting to " talk about it " , lying , the silent treatment ( which to me is the worst because
it's so childish ), all just raise the tension level and usually end up not resolving anything.
It is VERY hurtful. People who are passive aggressive usually have much to hide.
I'm just stating how I feel from personal experience . I would be led to a point of anger.
Once it reached that level I would say things that I would later regret and the perpetrator
could then place all the blame on me. Passive aggressiveness is a very cunning
way to avoid a situation or take responsibility for anything.