I am sorry you are going thru all of that. I got a divorce after 31 years of verbal abuse. One sentence helped me: "Try to let the side of you that is trying to save yourself....win." The Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans..saved my life. The reason I stayed so long, was the fear of being alone. I have been alone for 20 years You might want to see an attorney to find out your rights, etc.......