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Moose72 · Sep 14, 2022, 02:16 PM

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Originally Posted by *Beth*

David, my husband, refuses to go to the doctor. Flat-out will. not. go. He would never, never do anything like take his blood pressure, either, or allow me to take it. Nothing medical, except the dentist when he has had unbearable tooth pain. He's 75 years old and sooo needs blood work done. He's 5'9 and weighs 119 lbs. Obviously he is not healthy in some way.

Interestingly, his mother was raised Christian Scientist - but she completely eschewed the religion and became Methodist. David was raised Methodist.

He justifies his avoidance of anything medical in all sorts of ways, but the truth is that he's absolutely terrified of medical stuff. It's ridiculous and so, so frustrating to me and to our kids. When he complains to me about any physical problem except dental pain I change the subject. I have told him 1,000 times to see a doctor, get a physical. He won't, so that's that.

byw, David has excellent VA insurance and would also qualify for Medicare.

I give your FWB huge credit for getting vaxxed. As for other health stuff, he knows that seeing a doctor would be smart. There's not a soul on earth who isn't at least a bit nervous about going to the doctor. It's no excuse.

Unfortunately, N3 refuses to make any appointments with either his medical doctor or his dentist. I've been bugging him for 2 years!!