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Originally Posted by moodyblue83
It seems like it comes down to the basics. Communication is the #1 issue. It usually always boils
down to particular reasons that an argument takes place. What are you REALLY arguing about ?
People usually beat around the bush because they don't want to be TRUTHFUL about the issues
causing the dispute. The problem is mostly the emotional reaction , response , or reply we give
rather than a rational thought out response. Do we even have to respond at all ? Walk away.
Only mature adult human beings can communicate their feelings and truthfulness in an unemotional
way. Go somewhere private and think this whole drama show out in a rational , realistic way.
Wishing you the best....
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Yes, agreed. He's the one who both starts and escalates arguments. I try to remain calm and have an adult conversation and discussion - but he starts in with the false accusations & projections, his tone is an angry tone and he becomes irrational and unreasonable. When I point out he is arguing with me, or has an angry tone, immediately he says "no I'm not" or "no I don't. He constantly denies me of my reality and experience of him, which I believe is gaslighting.
He's impossible, and that's why this relationship will never work long term. I am the reasonable, calm and rational one. He is not.
And he does this every single time. He's a man-child who cannot communicate without fighting. He takes all his stress out on me and uses me as a punching bag for his own stress. Whenever we've fought, it's because HE is stressed, or HE is not feeling well. And I am seriously tired of it all.