I'm sorry you're feeling shamed by your T. Have you talked to her about this?

From everything I've read here that you write it seems like weight and diet is your main issue why you're in therapy. Do you work on anything else? If you're mainly seeing her for weight and diet, then her focus will be and should be on that. Again, everything you post is about that. You do seems to have a lot of issues around food and control. You often say that it's not in your control, but it actually is. I am by no means saying it's easy. And you definitely should not be shamed for body size especially if it's in a healthy range. Yet I think you know your eating habits are off.