He is not taking accountability. And of course he will act like he is the 'victim' and how dare you hurt him. Of course he will deflect all the blame onto you. That is his MO: *you* are the bad guy in this dynamic, after all.

That is his script and this has been going on for years: either become the victim or sweet talk you the minute you stand up for yourself. He will always give you just enough honey to keep you hanging on (apologies, act loving, promises to change, blah de blah). Ultimately, his true colours *always* show.