It’s hard to live with one foot out the door always debating if you are staying or going. I’d find it extremely stressful. I’d be hesitant to buy property or any other large mutual spendings if I was not sure if I am staying. I’d hate living in the limbo.

If the issue is the nasty way how he fights, I’d hope therapy would help with teaching him not to fight dirty calling people names or threaten divorce. It sounds if he stops, that it should be all good. Could couple therapist address the ugly manner in which he fights?