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Originally Posted by divine1966
It’s hard to live with one foot out the door always debating if you are staying or going. I’d find it extremely stressful. I’d be hesitant to buy property or any other large mutual spendings if I was not sure if I am staying. I’d hate living in the limbo.
If the issue is the nasty way how he fights, I’d hope therapy would help with teaching him not to fight dirty calling people names or threaten divorce. It sounds if he stops, that it should be all good. Could couple therapist address the ugly manner in which he fights?
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Our therapist doesn’t confront my husband. I don’t think he’s even helping him. I think all they honestly do is chit chat.
And yes it’s the nasty way he fights but it’s more than that. It’s the deflections, the projections, the gaslighting, the false accusations and blame that occurs in these fights too - ALL abuse tactics.
And it happens every time he’s stressed. And he’s stressed a LOT of the time these days.