sincity, I don't know you or your son but your posts have always come across as being very sincere and open. I understand your concern about your son but it sounds to me as though you're already handling it perfectly. your nuturing is going to go a long way with him. I can't tell you 'dont worry', but I can say that he is going to feel secure in your love for him, and that is more important than whether you seem 'tough'.

thinking of you,
LMo