Do these fights happen while intoxicated?

I’ve been with some difficult men and I’ve never been called names or called crazy or that’s something wrong with me EXCEPT by the one who had a drinking problem (fights were always about me unhappy with his drinking) . Then he’d repent and be all sorry when sober up. When sober he was an angel.

We have somebody at work who drinks and abuses pills. They are afraid to fire as she plays her disability very well. So she is just being moved from a building to building when she goes nuts. So when she under influence or withdrawing (at work) she goes ballistic and causes huge problems sending terrible messages or getting into peoples faces.

The way your husband goes nuts in fights like calling you names or at some point he was physical, it sounds as he’s under influence. It’s not normal to call your own wife crazy snd psychotic unless one is drunk or drugged up. He used some heavy drugs in the past. He might be using again and that would explain nasty fights. Just not normal sober behavior

Don’t let therapist just chat. Interrupt and say my husband called me names last night. Are you afraid to bring things up in therapy? Then it’s really a waste of time. I’d not pay for a chitchat