Hello from Italy, first of all, thanks for all the articles because they are very useful and inspiring. I have been with my gf/exgf for almost 4 years now. The first two or three years were wonderful together. But since this year particularly, things started getting colder and I was neglecting some of the affection and care that she wanted and needed. Now I regret that part. Time has passed and now she told me that she doesn’t love you anymore and that she realised how much she misses herself. The problem is that she told me over the phone, because I went back home to see my family for almost two months and I am coming back next week, when I will finally see her in person.

The first month away it was ok, talking every day and making plans for when I will come back, but the second month she started to ignore me more and I went nuts. Since then, things got worst. She started doing many things in her own, specially sports, with friends. First she asked for some time to think, then to break up. I was clingy and needy and told her that I reflected and that now I was ready to take the relationship more seriously but she said is too late, that we dont match and that I can meet her expectations for a life partner. I insisted over this different days by texting only to get more blocked.

I don’t know what to do now. I will see her next week and even if she told me very clearly that she doesn’t love me anymore and that she doesn’t want to be with me I still have hope to change her mind. I know what I did wrong and I have the confidence to change things, but is it too late? Should I try to convince her? Will change anything the fact we will see in person after two months? Should I accept the break up when I come back and wait for another moment? How could I bring back her attention and trust?