Your mother cannot make you wait. She can make your life harder by complaining about you leaving though. So I get it. I have a difficult father so often times it’s better to wait to avoid him causing a fight or guilting us. As a parent though if my daughter was abused, I’d want her to leave today. Not tomorrow. I’d not tell her to wait. Does your mom not believe that you are being abused? Leaving your husband wouldn’t have to be a production or drama. But I understand if your mom is causing issues. When is the memorial?

Also are you afraid he’s leaving you first as he is possibly plotting this already? Just wonder