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Old Sep 20, 2022, 10:19 PM
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My mom is asking me to play chauffeur this morning, which an unusual development for recent days. A lot of it is normal errands and tasks for her, but there is something involving her personal finances and my dad that is not sitting right with me. Remember my dad deciding I needed to pay him back for money freely given to help cover vehicle costs because he felt spited? I hope I'm wrong, but I'm sensing that same dynamic with the two of them involving a much larger sum of money. Money he definitely has, but she can't really afford to lose. We'll see in a couple of hours.
I was right. I really didn't want to be, but here we are. My dad paid to fill my propane tank for the winter, something that was news to me when my mom told me, but because I (I repeat, I) didn't thank him vigorously enough, she needs to pay him $2500 to spite me.

It's not all of her money, but it's a large chunk. I begged her not to do it, advising her that paying my dad off like this will make him expect payment in the future anytime his feelings get hurt, but there was no convincing her. She paid him the equivalent of three months of her Social Security check to keep a temporary peace. And it will be temporary. I can only hope she gets her money's worth.

I know why my dad did it. He despises me, much like he despises everyone, but because I'm "family" (not that he ever acted the part with me), he feels obligated to help me despite his contempt for me. If he screws over my mom (his wife, mind you) to get to me and I cut my losses... Well, ungrateful kids. What can you do? He feels absolved of any guilt.

My dad is already in the proverbial pit. It's heartbreaking to see my mother being dragged in with him.
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